Bertha’s Legacy, Jamie’s Future. Do you have the courage to walk with us?

I am not looking for approval. I do not desire a history lesson. I will not approve posts written by haters or trolls. I have not the time nor patience for hate. If this is not a cause you are interested in then you may not want to waste your time reading this post. However, I hope you will find it in your heart to at least hear me out.

If you have read my previous posts then you will already know who Bertha is. If you took the time to listen to the radio show, you will know who Jamie is. If you do not know who Jamie is, please check out his story at If you yearn for a world filled with love, acceptance, equality and peace, then perhaps Jamie’s story will move you like it has me.

Due to side effects from the medication that eases my pain just enough for me to be able to get out of bed, most of the $3 words I once knew are lost to me. Same with my dictionary and thesaurus so please don’t have high expectations of my writing skills!

Sadly, I never had the honor of meeting Bertha. Yet she has been an amazing influence in my life. My mother was raised in an extremely prejudice and abusive home. Her only refuge was in the arms of Bertha, their African American maid. Bertha loved mama as if she were her own. Because of her, mama grew up not living with fear and hatred in her heart. Because of Bertha’s love, my mama chose to teach her children love and acceptance. We grew up with the knowledge that all people are the same. We all put our pants on one leg at a time. We may have different pigmentation or believe in a different God. Some people may not believe in a God. It is not for me to decide that I am right and you are wrong. Each and every one of us have a right to our own belief system, thoughts and opinions.

That being said, I loved and accepted everyone. I was always out to help the underdog regardless of race, color, creed or religion. We all bleed red.

Unfortunately, I grew up thinking that “just not being racist” was enough. What a small and shallow world I created for myself. Then I met Sonni. Boy, has she opened my eyes! Thank you, WordPress. In a very short time she has taught me so much. Thank you, Sonni. Sonni introduced me to Jamie. His story is tragic and one that happens far too often. I knew nothing of the prison system until I started reading her blog about Jamie. I had no idea of the cruelty and neglect that runs rampant in the prison system. I used to think that all or most prisoners deserved to be there and never even thought about the conditions. There are hundreds of thousands of men and women who have more than paid their dues. Many who could not afford an attorney were frightened into taking a plea deal, often giving them far more time than a jury may have. Jamie was told that he should take the seventeen years being offered because a jury would likely give him 99 years. Of course he opted for the deal. Black men in Texas don’t get paroled. They serve every day of their sentence. I bet many states are the same. My mom worked for the local District Attorney’s office and can tell you stories about how black men and women almost always serve three times the amount of time than that of a white person who has been charged with the exact same thing. Tragic. Unjust. Fundamentally wrong.

The rapist who lives in my neighborhood served eight years for brutalizing a woman. Jamie is serving seventeen years for being in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong person. He is not a violent man. On the contrary, he is a gentle spirit. He is the father of one of Sonni’s grandchildren. She knows his story inside and out.

If someone had told me six months ago that I would be writing to an inmate, I would have told them they were crazy. If they had told me I would come to care deeply for and love a prisoner, I would have told them they were insane. I love Jamie very deeply. Not romantically. I am married and almost twice his age. Jamie has become my brother and I am now his sister. I am not going to give you details here as I so desperately want you to read his story for yourself, with an open mind and loving heart. I’m sorry for being redundant. Ah, I found a $2 word.

“Bertha’s Legacy, Jamie’s Future” is an organization I am creating in order to bring black and white people together in order to fight for justice and equality. Contrary to popular belief in this country, those two things do not exist. This is not and will not be “my” organization. Each and every one of us will have ownership. We will stand together and walk side by side. We will be one voice. I am looking for loving people who honestly want change to walk this journey with us.


Let me remind you, no racist, hateful or hurtful comments will be approved.

Thank you for taking the time to read about Jamie and the dream he has unknowingly inspired me to reach for.



I have started a group on Facebook called, “Bertha’s Legacy, Jamie’s Future”

It is bare bones right now. I will be adding posts on a regular basis. It is a closed group so it will be off limits to haters and trolls. I will not allow hate or disrespect at all. Zero tolerance. We may not always agree. We may feel differently than someone else. There is ALWAYS a way to explain your belief system to someone else with love and respect. I hope that you will by, even if you just want to say hello, give encouragement or just lurk for awhile.

David Snape Show 2 (4.4.16)

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Please take the time to listen to Sonni’s interview. You can fast forward to 1:26:00 where the interview with Sonni starts. Please take the time to listen and spread this around the internet. Most people have no clue and many won’t care. How would you feel if it were your relative?

I still don’t know how to do this properly so please forgive me, Sonni.

This was originally published by Sonni Quick,  on her blog, “My Name is Jamie”.

The Dumbing Down of America

You have taken the words right out of my mouth! I agree with every single word. This is a MUST read unless your brainwashing is complete.

Thank you so much for sharing your insights.


Sonni Quick

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This is the 4th time I have tried to write this post. The problem is knowing there is a significant percentage of people who are so susceptible to being manipulated into believing what they are told to believe even to the point of their own destruction. It’s mindblowing. When I read comments people make about politicians and who and what they support, it is a direct reflection of the garbage spewed over and over on mainstream media. Tell people what you want them to believe often enough and it becomes truth. Then the people will indignently insist it is the truth. The people behind the curtain laugh at how easy it is to get the citizens to believe what you want them to believe. People will believe the stupidest things.

In our next US presidential election people still actually think the person elected has the power to…

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To be (married) or not to be (married)

I really hope I stopped this thing from showing up on Facebook. If not, my husband’s relatives may just let him in on my secret before I am ready to share it with him.

I love my husband. I just don’t think I can be married to him any more. I have talked to him countless times about the problems we have in our marriage but nothing EVER changes. I am just so tired of things not changing.

My 71 year old mom has permanent legal guardianship of my nephew and they live with us. She receives no support of any kind. She is on social security and I am disabled. She and I do not bring in enough money to support the three of us.

The biggest problem I have in my marriage is financial. My husband is a truck driver. He is an extremely social person. Nothing wrong with that except he has to stop at truck stops every hour or so and will hang out for a good little while just chatting with folks. It causes him to get less loads than all the other drivers so his check along with mine and mom’s are not quite enough to pay the bills. Every time I get close to being caught up he gets “sick” and has to take a few days off. I want to pull my hair out. He does this EVERY December. He has now been out for ten days. Tomorrow’s check might be $150.00 and there will be no check for the next two. I spend every December scrambling to find the money so I can get gifts for my nephew. He is a great kid. Never gets in trouble. Makes A-B honor roll every report card. He has good manners. We NEVER have the money to buy him things other than birthday and Christmas. His birthday is on November 22nd. So unfair.

That is just the tip of the iceberg. I am probably an asshole for sharing this with the world but I really need some suggestions. My pain makes it impossible for me to work unless there is some legit work from home job out there. My doctor visits and meds cost a fortune. I feel so damn stuck. I would rather die than loose him because I don’t have the money to feed him.

I was a workaholic before becoming disabled. I need to find a way to work.

Oh. The biggest problem is that he makes my nephew feel like he can’t do anything right. He raises hell at him for things like forgetting to take the trash out. Come on. He is 13. I have to do right by my nephew. He deserves better.
I am sorry for dumping this on you guys. Please help me with some ideas.

Thank you.

Back in business!

I am back in business! Old phone completely died. New phone came today. I am so excited to be back! I have missed you guys. I have a lot of comments to go through and i am still trying to learn how to use my new phone. Lots of people to respond to and bad pain today so please be patient.



In which I tell you how your religion works

This post is so much better than mine! Regardless of how you feel about the refugee situation, please read this. I love this post.

Welcome to infinitefreetime dot com

christianity_versus_other_religions_blog-horngsawI am not a Christian.  That fact has probably been perfectly clear for a very long time; it doesn’t take a whole lot of reading around here to figure it out.

What may be less clear to non long-time visitors: Chances are I know way more about Christianity than you do.  Is that a guarantee?  No, not at all.  But most of you don’t have a Master’s degree in Biblical studies.  I do.  And I got it from one of the best divinity schools in the country.  So chances are I know more about Christianity and Western religion in general than you do.

I’ve been thinking about Jesus a lot in the last few days.  Maybe I should go full wanker here and call him Yeshua, or something, to rid him of some of the cruft that’s accumulated over the past 2000 years, but the point is I’ve spent a…

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No Syrians in America equals no terrorist attacks.

Seriously? Do you really believe closing our borders to people in desperate need will stop terrorism in this country? I hate to be the bearer of bad news but by turning these people away you are in fact ENSURING more terrorist attacks.

Because a few men are rapists, does that mean we should ban ALL men? Because a few women are gold diggers, does that mean we should ban ALL women? Because a few dogs are aggressive, should we ban ALL dogs? Do you see where I’m going with this? Being Muslim doesn’t make you a terrorist any more than being a man makes you a rapist.

I have no doubt there will be more terrorist attacks on our soil, but not because we open our hearts and our borders. Precisely the opposite. We have become a hated nation. We are a nation filled with adults acting like two year olds. “I want what I want when I want it and everyone else be damned”. We are a nation of racists, bigots, narcissists and greedy fools. Things have become more important than human beings.

The terrorists who entered America in order to carry out the 9/11 attacks did not come in as a group of refugees seeking asylum. Are you really so simple minded? If the answer is yes, you are more foolish than I first believed.

Have you even thought about the fact that our very ancestors were the first terrorists to come to this country? Just look at what they did to the American Indians. Can you really blame them from scalping the terrorists who were raping their women, stealing THEIR land and wiping out their tribes? The way I see it, our ancestors got what they deserved.

What about the terrorism perpetrated on the Africans? Kidnapped from their own birth places, separated from family, beaten mercilessly and forced to due hard labor so our ancestors could be rich AND lazy. Selling a human life is SO barbaric. To this day, they are still being abused and repressed.

Yet you have the gall to turn away an entire group of people seeking a better life for themselves and their children because they have the audacity to follow a different religion. Oh yeah, they MUST all be terrorists since they are not Christians.  They are seeking refuge from the same evil force you yourself are so afraid of. Please tell me, what right do the descendants of terrorists have to turn away a peaceful group of people who are in desperate need of our help, based on their religion?

Governor Deal, you disgust me. You are the epitome of all that is wrong with this country. You too, Donald Frump. May God have mercy on your souls!

Dear Syrian refugees,

Please forgive my government for they know not how ignorant they are. Just as being a Muslim does not mean you must be a terrorist, being American does not mean I must be an ignorant, racist, moronic bigot. There are many Americans who would welcome you with open arms. I am so sorry for the decisions of the self-righteous politicians in this country.

Crying can feel like dying – one drop at a time.

Parental Alienation

This is a message the must be read, heard and understood by all divorcing/divorced parents. PLEASE DO NOT TRAUMATIZE YOUR CHILDREN IN ORDER TO EXACT REVENGE ON YOUR SPOUSE.

Breaking Sarah - Bruised, Not Broken

I am so very mad right now. I don’t watch Dr. Phil’s TV show but it happened to be the channel it was on when I turned the TV on. The subject matter immediately caught my attention: a mother has been telling her daughter for 16 years that her father molested her when she was a toddler.

The father denies it. The police found no evidence of abuse. Schools and peers believe the abuse didn’t happen and that the mother, instead, was making things up or making huge exaggerations. Okay – it had my attention! The father took a polygraph, administered by a well-known ex-FBI agent considered the best at giving and interpreting polygraphs, and he passed with flying colors. It brought the father to tears of relief. When Dr. Phil asked if he was glad the public finally knows the truth, the father said that he didn’t care about that, he…

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I could relate to everything Tessa has to say here. I have been bi-polar my whole life. Too many are suffering in silence which I why I feel this story needs to be seen. Thank you for sharing with us, Tessa.

Tessa Can Do It - Positivity is Everything!

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For the record, I am not ashamed of my Bipolar Disorder or my other mental health conditions or the physical disorders that have disabled me. I am thankful that I can still walk a little. I am not ready for a wheel chair. As long as I can hobble along I will do that.

For the first half of my  life I  had no idea what was wrong. Now I know and it doesn’t shame me. I am still a human being that just has a disease like any other. There are doctors to treat this disease and therapy to help us through it. We just need to clear up the stigma and shame put on us by others, whether well meaning or not.

I won’t say it hasn’t affected my life because it has. I have had some bad experiences because of it. I have trouble with medications and…

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Major Fail!

I can’t begin to thank all of you for the likes and the follows! I am humbled and grateful. You guys are so amazing!

I want to apologize for not having responded to each and every one of you personally. I do not have internet at home right now. I use my cellphone for everything. Well, the old cellphone bit the dust two days ago. I will be ordering one in the morning and I’m having it overnighted. As soon as it gets here I will get it activated and return to immerse myself in your life stories, poetry and beautiful photography! After far too many years I have found my voice and I long to hear yours.

Thank you all again for the love. I can’t wait to return. My son’s phone will not allow me to reply directly to comments so I apologize. Probably because it’s a Windows phone.

Hugs to everyone and thank you for your patience!